oughts, shoulds, musts

funny the things you think about late at night

when really you ought to be asleep

"ought" is an odd word

suggesting actions one might (have) take(n): it's very similar to "must" and "should"

the things that don't necessarily feel right, but you ought / must / should "do" them anyway

not necessarily within your comfort zone, but probably "good" things to do

there is a phrase "needs must", isn't there

it always makes me think of doing things that you might not do in other circumstances (well, I don't mean "you" exactly) (like remaking the sheets sides-to-middle, to squeeze a few more years wear out of them. . .)

XCH and I had eighteen months of "couple counselling" about three years ago. . . I think I've learnt more about him in the last six months than in all the 22 years that I've known him. . . more than in all those hours of talking all that time ago (and it does seem a long long time ago now). . . anyhow. . . perhaps he's changed - I think he has. . . (perhaps I listen now? perhaps I hear, too? maybe I didn't do either back then? I tried - I know I ought to still try now - my best - I always try my best). . . also, of course, we are not the near-children we were when we met. . . and, of course, we have children of our own. . .

we'll always have those children between us, even tho there are other kinds of things between us now
distances mainly
but like I said, I really ought to be asleep
needs must, and all that
I hope you sleep/slept with angels,
dear reader,
and thank you for keeping me company tonight


Anonymous G said...

well, yes...I've been doodling in the margins.

But then your songs brought me out.

I've been reading and feeling and absorbing all you have to say.


hope you had sweet dreams...

and i never thanked you for the postcard with the picture of the artwork that was your latest etching. thank you for a bright spot in that day.

Mel said...

Oh, I've had my fill of 'think time' in the wee hours.....*sigh*

I've taken to just getting up and doing something.

<--has very clean closets.

Mel said...

BTW......'oughts, shoulds, musts'....

As long as they're not coming with 'shame on you for NOT', I'm okay with 'em.
Just sayin'.....

I, like the view said...

that's a good point mel thank you (I think a lot of mine were. . . and now they do tend to point to things that my heart is not in my doing. . . I'll get the balance right one day)

just think of the pleasure you'll get next time you open that closet!


Gordie said...

You've reminded me of that song by Beverly Knight, now:

People ask how it feels to live The kind of life others dream about
I tell them everybody gotta
Face their highs and their lows
And in my life
There's a love I put aside,
Cause I was busy
Loving something else
So for every little thing
You hold on to,
You've got to let something else go

Now "Shoulda woulda coulda"
means I'm out of time
Coz "Shoulda woulda coulda"
can't change your mind
And I wonder, wonder, wonder
What I'm gonna do
"Shoulda woulda coulda"
Are the last words of a fool.

(BTW, when I can't sleep at night, I say I ought to, but that's because I wanted to, and I intended to.)

Mig said...

I hate 'ought' and truth to tell I'm not so keen on 'must' or 'should'.

Best strategy seems to be to move straight on to 'will' or 'won't'.

(And then do or don't :)
((((((( I )))))))

Mel said...

<-- Thinks Mig's been listening to Yoda again!!! LOL