now I totally accept this ("the attitude"), as I was a little surly as a teen - I hated my father and my mother wasn't very nice to me (which is why I was only a little bit surly - I wasn't allowed to go whole hog on the self indulgence that a lot of teens seem to be struck with) (I made up for it later tho) and I guess I had all those teenage hormones and - being a girl - PMT to contend with (which, The Teen, being a boy, doesn't) (but still)
but the point of the chat (I had thought) was not to tell The Teen off for being a surly teen, but to say some other stuff: it seems the other stuff didn't get said - don't shoot the messenger, try not to mix the messages up in the delivery, yadda yadda, it seems what was said by XCH was not quite from the right angle. . .
last night he (The Teen) and I were having a minor contretemps and he burst out with "you and dad and The Tunesmith have RUINED my life"
my eyes more than watered